on the being of love...
love,understanding,trust,mutual appreciation,faith,respect.
when 1 decides to write bout love,so far as i ve read or even heard of its based mostly on personal experience or some preconceived notions (but ofcourse) or perhaps even some fairy tale ideas tht one would ideally like as reality.
so in tht sense,wat im going to be writings not going to be a bolt from the blue.but even so,i hopefully i'll rest the preconceived notions,but yes-it is based on personal experience.
so why,u'll be askin urself whys this guy writing this then.
cauuse i think tht there is something tht i ve learnt tht i find very valuable to share...cause its not based on the bitterness or anger or hope tht usually goes wit personal experience,so far as i can tell.its not even based on careful reasoning or breaking it down to careful little bits to examine.
so ... curious now?
my answers probably going 2 b a bit subjective,buti'll try n keep it clean.
but 1st i would like to look at (n dispell) a few concepts.the worldwidw favorite being 'love at first sight'.
this near mythical idea is used more often than i can care to recollect.i've pondered upon it a bit myself & i may add tht i've not experienced it.also i haved peronally observed among friends of mine tht this 'love at 1st sight' seems to happen quite frequently wit men falling in love wit a particularly well endowed woman...
So going by tht,it would seem tht the person who falls in love 'at 1st sight' is either bursting at their seems wit hormones,so the 1st sight is in a few ways quite similar 2 the way tht a lion who's feelin particularly famished would treat his prey,only more diplomatically.
secondly,n this is food for thought-if a person can decide something as great as love...almost at 1st sight,then do imagine what treatment lesser emotions would be getting.
lastly,perhaps whover came up wit the concept i n the 1st place may just have been dyslexic-gettin only th 1st alphabet correct-L n then misspelling the rest as OVE rather than UST...
the romantic industry n especially hallmark,etc susvives on this n other interesting concepts for their bread n butter.
all this does not mean tht when a person says 'i love u'-it dsnt mean nything.is does...n differently at different stages of a courtship/relationship.
so-wat does it mean when a person says 'i love u'?
assuming tht it has been said truthfully n not for the above stated reasons-to the person tht its said to the 1st time,its a great great feelin,esp if tht person also feels the sameway & also if its the 1st time in their lives.
returning to the earlier point...what does it mean to the person who says it? is it just a physical feelin of the stomach churning,feeling a bit light headed,a bit of a tingly feeling all over & generally all the colors looking more vivid,like a technicolor movie on view. these are among the firstphysical feeling tht a lot of us get.scientists have found out tht the hormones a persons body releases when one 'falls in love' are quite similar to taking drugs[the side effects are,ofcourse vastly different,according to the situation]{and ofcourse the colors r not as interesting and the light-headedness is not due to your brain frying,but thts another point}. overall a person in love radiates a beautiful healthy glow...
for awhile atleast...this we shall call stage one.
what happens a bit after,say-a year or two down the line.now the couple have known each other and most of the good and also not so good qualities have played a starring role or atleast made a guest appearance so far in the relationship.
nows the interesting bit:when a person NOW says 'i love u'.the hormonal difference is stark,the way both persons respond to this is different,in fact,mostly all things would be different besides the words.
assuming tht it is true and heartfelt- what is it based on now---my understanding of it is tht without a real base,these four alphabets have nowhere to stand on.
this base tht i speak of are-understanding,trust,and faith.
im not very comfortable with faith,because the way i am going to be using it is not in the same way as is generally used.so im going to use it anyways.
we shall go into each of these in a bit of detail now.
posted by kunalmithril @ 2:01 PM
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"We all want to fall in love. Why? Because that experience makes us feel completely alive. Where every sense is heightened, every emotion is magnified, our everyday reality is shattered and we are flying into the heavens. It may only last a moment, and hour, an afternoon. But that doesn't diminish its value. Because we are left with memories that we treasure for the rest of our lives."
why anonymous thou...
i wil be continuing this piece,cause i find it v important...thou i stil dnt know where its leadin as of now...so like a good cuppa tea,im letting it steep...
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